In our Tafta blog, we write about anything and everything to do with active ageing, and promoting a life worth living, regardless of age
When a friend loses a loved one, one of the first things you might do is send a bouquet of flowers to let them know you are thinking of them during this sad and difficult time.
A beautiful bouquet of someone’s favorite flowers, or a surprise home-delivered arrangement, often says more than a card or message could ever do. But these beautiful bouquets don’t just bring pleasant sights and smells to a person’s life on a difficult day. Flowers have been scientifically proven to have a positive impact on happiness and health.
For example, certain blooms can:
- Improve physical health: According to a study published in HortTechnology, hospital patients who recovered in rooms with flowers needed less pain medication and had lower blood pressure and heart rates than those with no flowers in their rooms. Having flowers in your home will improve the humidity in the air, which in turn helps alleviate dry skin and sore throats, and makes it easier to breathe.
- Reduce stress: The scent of flowers is known to aid relaxation – just think how you feel when you visit a beautiful garden. Specific flowers like chrysanthemums, lavender and gerbera are well known for their calm-inducing qualities and are ideal for both work spaces and around the home.
- Purify the air: Airborne germs and toxins may be circulating unnoticed in the air you’re breathing. Certain flowers like chrysanthemums (or mums for short) actually help remove toxins such as ammonia, benzene, formaldehyde, and xylene from the air around us.
- Enhance mood: At the most basic level, receiving flowers from someone helps lift your mood because it means someone cares. But even if you buy or pick your own flowers, they still help improve your mood because they look nice and smell good. Research indicates that flowers have powerful emotional effects, helping people feel less depressed, less emotional and happier. During sad times, flowers bring the message of hope and signify compassion, love and warmth.
- Boost memory: Because flowers are fragrant and smell is so strongly linked with memories, flowers have the potential to activate and exercise the parts of the brain associated with memory. Plus they help oxygenate the air, which also improves memory and concentration.
- Help us sleep: Lavender has long been believed to be a great, natural aid to sleep. But other fragrant flowers such as jasmine and gardenia have also been shown to calm nerves, so we sleep well and wake up feeling rested and energetic in the morning.
So the next time you send a friend or family member a bunch of flowers, know they are doing so much more than just making them smile.
[September 18, 2020]
With jobs in South Africa being shed at unprecedented rates – unemployment is projected to reach 50% by the end of the year – the majority of South Africans are about to get a lot poorer. And it’s going to impact not only on our lives today, but on the kind of lives we planned for the future.
If your employer is struggling to keep the company afloat and has had to reduce your salary, your retirement fund contribution (usually a percentage of your salary) will be less too. Some employers have even applied for temporary relief from the obligations placed on them by the Pension Funds Act which, if granted, means that they may not be paying anything into the fund on your behalf.
If you have been retrenched, you may be forced to cash in your retirement savings in order to continue paying the bills and keeping food on the table. This can have a catastrophic effect on your ability to retire comfortably when the time comes.
On the whole, South Africans are notoriously bad at saving for retirement, with only 6% having accumulated sufficient savings to retire comfortably.
Even before the pandemic struck, less than 9% of earners preserved their retirement savings when they changed jobs. Younger people, in particular, tend to job hop frequently, and cash in their savings each time they leave a company, only waking up much later in life to the importance of saving for retirement. By then, it’s virtually impossible to catch up.
But it’s not just the young and thoughtless who may be wishing they’d saved more or started saving earlier. Even those who have prepared well could be in trouble.
Since March 2020, the central bank has cut the key repro rate by a total of 300bps. Or, in other words, interest rates have dropped from 6.25% to the current 3.5%. While this is good news for borrowers, retired people living on the interest earned on their savings will have considerably less money each month than they bargained for.
So what can you do if you’re struggling to make ends meet right now?
First and foremost, resist taking on any more debt, especially ‘bad’ debt (that used to buy consumables or items that decline in value). If you’re maintaining your previous lifestyle by racking up more credit card debt, you’re heading for disaster. When the President speaks about austerity measures and belt tightening, he is referring to all of us. We need to seriously evaluate how we spend our money and eliminate non-essentials.
Consider ‘downsizing’ your home or car. The status that comes from living in a mansion and driving a luxury motor vehicle is important to some people, but it’s not worth the financial stress that comes from struggling to maintain an unaffordable lifestyle.
“We saved over R2000 a month on car repayments,” says Mrs M, “just by trading in my husband’s big SUV and buying a smaller car. Everything about the new car is cheaper – from filling the tank to servicing, and replacing tyres. It still gets us from A to B in comfort. And it’s much easier to park!”
Making the decision to sell your home is a little trickier. It’s a buyer’s market right now and you may not be able to achieve your selling price, especially on a property in the higher price bracket. If you’ve owned your home for a while and your bond has been partially paid off, consider approaching your bank to negotiate an extension on the loan period to bring down the monthly repayments.
Selling your home and using the proceeds to rent elsewhere, can only be a short term solution. You never want to be in a position where you are using your capital to fund monthly living expenses. However, in some circumstances, it may be the only option until the situation improves.
If the bills are piling up and you are unable to meet your commitments, don’t just ignore the situation and hope for the best. Speak to your creditors to let them know of your difficulties and negotiate a more affordable repayment plan. If you need more help, consider applying for debt counselling.
This is a formal plan introduced by the National Credit Act to assist over-indebted consumers. You’ll be placed under Debt Review and protected from legal action by your creditors. Your debts will be restructured and you will pay a single, reduced monthly amount that you can afford. This repayment plan becomes a legally enforceable court order.
During the period that you are under debt rescue you cannot incur any additional debt. You will also receive advice on how to budget and make better spending decisions once you are debt free.
[August 12, 2020]
Such is the paradox of Covid-19.
To avoid passing on the disease we are urged to stay at home. If we do venture out, we must practice social distancing and wear masks that hide our smiles. Under these conditions, meaningful contact with others is pretty much impossible; even communicating with the person at the till is difficult, when words are muffled by masks and barriers of shiny perspex.
The feeling of being cut off from everyone else is almost surreal. And because we humans are social beings, this feeling of isolation sparks other feelings of depression, hopelessness and sadness.
But then, the worst happens. We actually get Covid-19. And suddenly we find that we aren’t alone at all.
We are swamped with phone calls and WhatsApp messages from friends expressing concern, offering prayers and volunteering to do whatever they can to help. We may feel like we are more connected, to a wider circle of people than ever before.
This is what happened to an elderly lady at Tafta Lodge recently. When she tested positive for Covid-19, she was made aware as never before of the kinship shared by all the residents of the building.
Just like family, they rallied round to offer support and practical help … anything she needed … as well as assurances that she was in their thoughts and prayers. It was an outpouring of love, intended to uplift and sustain a fellow being in her hour of need. Above all, it gave Mrs E the comfort of knowing that she was not in this alone.
As she battled the disease, and eventually recovered from it, Mrs E was constantly amazed by the kindness and support she received. So much so that she said it had given her a new outlook on life, experiencing the humanity and care that still exists in the world.
Being a Tafta resident, she was well aware of the huge responsibility we have to so many other people. This made her even more overwhelmed and grateful for the personal, compassionate attention she received. It made her feel important and valued, and helped give her the will to overcome the debilitating virus.
Mrs E never felt that she had to battle the disease on her own. Even while she was in isolation, she was touched by the patience, understanding and encouragement of our social worker and staff. Her condition was closely monitored by the building supervisor, who checked on her regularly. Fellow residents also rallied round to offer assistance.
“I urge you to continue your great work for it is never in vain,” she said.
We will never know why our world has been afflicted by the Coronavirus pandemic. Some feel it is a wake up call to curb our exploitation of the animal world, or some sort of pay back for all the damage inflicted by the human race.
But perhaps, the lesson it has to teach us is that we are not alone – and that caring for our fellow human beings is the most important thing we can do.
[August 6, 2020]
Do you feel that the lockdown has affected your mental health?
Are you anxious? Short tempered? Inexplicably sad? Demotivated? Exhausted? Lonely?
Are you overeating? Drinking more? Exercising less? Having difficulty sleeping?
Whilst everyone is aware of the need to protect physical health – wearing masks, sanitizing hands and maintaining social distance – the very real mental problems associated with self-isolation have largely been ignored. And yet they are just as dangerous, if not more so.
Barely two weeks into the lockdown, we heard the tragic news of an elderly woman who jumped to her death from a block of flats near the beachfront. Although details are sketchy, the woman apparently lived alone and possibly felt completely overwhelmed by the situation.
Another elder who lives alone felt that she had lost the ability to interact socially. When people phoned to check on her, she found it difficult to chat to them; she was ‘out of practice’ in terms of knowing how to behave around others – and she was worried that she might never regain the feeling of being at ease socially.
Digital tools may add to the problem
While tools like Zoom and FaceTime allow us to interact more fully with loved ones and business colleagues, they also add unexpected stress – especially business calls where we virtually allow the boss access into our private space at a time when we may not be feeling (or looking) our best.
Adding to the discomfort is the inhibiting sight of ourselves on the screen. It’s a completely alien experience – watching ourselves talking to others and noticing embarrassing mannerisms of which we were previously unaware, how haggard we look, or that our hair is in desperate need of a cut. Anxiety over our own appearance can make it difficult to concentrate on what others are saying, or even to enjoy conversations with our loved ones.
Additional toll on parents of young children
In China, these expected mental health effects are already being reported in the first research papers about the lockdown. In cases where parents were isolated with children, the mental health toll became even steeper. In one study, no less than 28% of parents warranted a diagnosis of “trauma-related mental health disorder”.
When you think that globally, millions of people are dealing with these intense stressors with very little support, the consequences could be huge and last much longer than the virus.
Prof Ed Bullmore, head of the department of psychiatry at the University of Cambridge, said that the pandemic is having a major social and psychological impact on the whole population, increasing unemployment, separating families and various other changes in the way we live. “We know these are generally major psychological risk factors for anxiety, depression and self-harm,” he said.
Among other priorities, it is important to explore ways people have found to cope with the pandemic, and urgently find ways to support mental wellbeing, particularly in vulnerable groups and healthcare workers.
Increase in depression in South Africa
Casey Chambers, operations director for the South African Depression and Anxiety Group (SADAG), says the organisation has seen an increase in the number of calls since the start of the lockdown.
“We are getting more calls from people who are feeling more anxious, more down, and saddened as they see the number of cases and deaths increasing every day,” she said.
Of particular concern are people who are doing lockdown by themselves and who do not have family or friends. Many elders fall into this category. There has also been an increase in calls from people who live in abusive households, who are worried about their safety.
Tips to safeguard mental health
Tafta works closely with SADAG to ensure that elders experiencing mental health pressures during lockdown get the help they need. If you feel that lockdown is affecting you negatively, here are some tips to reduce stress:
- Maintain a daily routine. Slumping on the couch all day in your pyjamas ultimately makes you feel more helpless and not in control;
- Get some sunshine – stand at the window if you live in a flat, or go out into the garden if you can;
- Try to eat as healthily as possible;
- Stick to a regular bedtime to ensure you get enough sleep;
- Restrict media and social media coverage to prevent it from becoming too overwhelming. Be particularly wary of false news which can send emotions see-sawing wildly between anger and relief, hope and despair;
- Acknowledge that anxiety at such a difficult time is completely normal. Recognise that we are all affected by it and it’s global. It’s important to normalize these feelings;
- Enjoy a good laugh at some of the jokes doing the rounds. Humor can be an effective mood enhancer when times are difficult, helping us manage emotional responses and diffusing the impact;
- Find things to keep you busy (whether it’s constructive or creative) to help lift your mood. Try to exercise even if space is limited;
- Especially if you live alone, make a conscious effort to reach out and connect with loved ones by phone, online or through social media. While online contact can’t replace the human touch, it is still a powerful way of remembering that you are not alone.
- Above all, you need to believe that you will get through this. Human beings are by nature resilient, with a strong survival instinct. Don’t be afraid to reach out for help if you feel overwhelmed.
The SADAG mental health helpline is also open 24/7 on 0800 456 789. Or you can WhatsApp 076 882 2775 between 9am – 5pm.
[May 28, 2020]
Data from China on the first 44 000 Coronavirus patients showed that the death rate in those aged 80 and over is nearly 15%, and 8% among those aged 70 to 79. In South Africa, the median age of those who have passed away after being infected by the virus, is 64.
As people age, their immune system gets weaker, leaving older people more vulnerable to succumbing to the virus – especially if they have underlying health conditions like heart disease, hypertension, respiratory disease and diabetes.
For this reason, elders are advised to stay at home if at all possible.
Whilst isolation reduces the risk of Covid-19, it can also lead to a host of other problems – including loneliness, depression and, for those with fading memories, a feeling of abandonment and confusion when beloved family and friends no longer visit. Here are some ideas to help get elders through an extended period under lockdown.
Not being able to go out, or participate in activities like attending church services and club meetings can make us lazy. It’s all too easy to sit for hours in front of the TV or lie in bed reading a book. But long periods of inactivity are bad for your circulation and heart.
Make a point of getting up and walking around your living space for 5 minutes every hour. If you have a fitness band or smart watch, set it to remind you to take at least 250 steps every hour.
Try a new hobby
Mental health is just as important as physical health. Keep your brain occupied solving crosswords, sudukos, and other puzzles. Try creative activities like colouring in and crafts, or playing games like scrabble or chess online with a ‘virtual’ opponent.
It’s normal to feel lonely and isolated when you have no contact with your loved ones. Make full use of email, ‘face time’ video calls and phone calls to keep in touch with friends, family and relatives.
Stick to a well-balanced diet
It’s tempting to treat yourself to sweets, chips and chocolate when you’re feeling down. But healthy eating will improve your mood and physical wellbeing more in the long run, as well as helping to keep your immune system strong to protect you from illness.
If you just have to have your fix of burgers or pizza, only order hot food to be delivered to you from an authorised Level 4 restaurant supplier. Do not risk the purchase of cold food or food from an informal caterer who may not be following the strictest hygiene precautions, and may unknowingly increase your risk of exposure to the virus.
Take the necessary personal precautions
It is your personal responsibility to ensure that you follow the recommended guidelines for preventing Covid-19 infection.
- When you go out in public, wear a cloth mask that covers both nose and mouth
- Wash or sanitise hands frequently
- Practice social distancing (2m away from other persons) when shopping, visiting the clinic or using public transport.
- Wherever possible, stay at home; call on support staff to assist with shopping and collecting medicines.
- If you must go out, and need to use a taxi or public transport, do not enter the vehicle unless the driver and support staff are wearing masks. Avoid touching your face and sanitise your hands frequently. When you return home, remove your shoes and change your clothing. Have discarded clothing and masks washed before next use.
You also have the right to ask your carers to wash their hands and sanitise any items brought into your living space
Under Level 4 Lockdown regulations you are allowed to exercise between the hours of 6-9am. Try not to stay out for the full 3 hours as this increases the level of interaction you have with the general public and your risk to exposure.
Wear your mask at all times and plan your route to minimise contact with others (think less-busy walking routes). For safety reasons, please partner with another elder, but observe social distancing rules and remember that group activity is not permitted.
Once you return to the building, consider changing your clothing and airing your walking shoes in the hot sun. Sanitise thoroughly. Remember to always follow your building’s recommendations and rules.
Dealing with loss
Sadly it is likely that we will all face the loss of someone close to us as a result of this pandemic. In many cases, we may not have the necessary permits to attend funerals to say our Goodbyes. This is an extremely sad predicament and we urge those seeking a way to come to terms with loss, to speak to our support care team.
When it all gets too much
Frustration over lockdown restrictions, not being able to see loved ones, and anxiety about becoming infected with a deadly virus can suddenly seem overwhelming. Depression, even suicidal thoughts surface when you believe that the situation will never get better, and that life will never return to normal.
Should you, or someone close to you suffer such feelings, please reach out for help. Speak to a Tafta social worker by dialing 031 332 3721 or emailing email@example.com.
For a suicidal emergency contact SADAG on 0800 576 567 or the 24 hour helpline 0800 456 789.
We are all in this together and we will make it through!
[May 14, 2020]